I’ve been gone for a long time.
I haven’t written anything but weekly assignment and essays since September. I usually blame it on not having enough time – being a full-time student, RA and having a part-time job will do that to you.
But I’ve been feeling antsy lately. I told a friend the other day that I’m starting to feel restless again.
The problem is I want to do things. It doesn’t have to be something massive and world-changing – I just want to do something. Write something, be someone, have something to leave behind.
Writing is the thing I want to do. I wrote a lot in the summer, mostly because I had at least five thousand crises but I wrote a lot. I even started writing a book and I loved it. I am in my element when I write like this. When I write about things I’m passionate about or even just spill my many, many emotions onto a page, I feel calmer.
I feel like I can survive.
I feel like I’m contributing something.
I feel at peace.
The problem became that I started comparing myself. I started looking at other blogs and accomplishments and began thinking that I wasn’t good enough. My book would never be published so why would I spend so much time on it? My blog would never get thousands of followers and be read all over the world so why bother? I’ll never be good enough to be paid for writing so what’s the point at all?
So, in an act of true bravery and dignity, I gave up.
I just stopped writing because I thought I wasn’t good enough and because I thought that there wouldn’t be a point to any of this if I was never going to good enough.
If I’m honest, I do this with a lot of situations in my life. I run away because I don’t think I can measure up. So instead of trying my best and giving it my all, I run because I won’t feel good about it unless I ultimately succeed. Failure isn’t an option even if I do my best because I would still fail and I hate even the idea of that.
I’m learning (surprise) that this isn’t actually a healthy way to live.
So I started asking myself, why do I do the things I do? I realized the answer was either because I know I’m good at these things or because people will think highly of me if I do them.
That, my friends, is very very bad.
I am so afraid of failure and having people look down on me that I’ll give up something I love in fear of failure. And I’m learning that if I do anything outside of doing it for the glory of Jesus, I am doing it for the wrong reasons.
If I write just for people to tell me I’m a good writer and to get a lot of views, I’m writing in vain.
If I write because I love it and because Jesus has given me the ability and desire to do so, then I’m doing it right.
It doesn’t matter if anyone ever reads my words or buys my work, it doesn’t matter if no one clicks on the link to this blog or if everyone if the world thinks I’m a terrible writer.
I write because I love it, because it heals me, because it’s a God-given desire.
So I’m back. And I’m gonna keep writing and writing and writing, even if 0 people read these words, I’m gonna keep writing.
3 thoughts on “I’m Back”
I’m glad you’re back! You put words together so well. You voiced my problem in this post…. I always have that insecurity with my efforts; I want to either succeed or not try at all. This is why my blog is a 1-post abandoned facade with a backlog of drafts that I could never share! I don’t want to face it because failure is painful.
But you also offer hope in this post. “I write because I love it, because it heals me, because it’s a God-given desire.” I love that sentence! God gave us gifts to be used, despite all our insecurities, as I was just hearing in the “Journeywomen” podcast (Jan. 8 episode)!
Thank you so so much! I have tons of drafts too! Glad to know I’m not alone! Be encouraged and I would love to read your work sometime!
I think everything you’ve said makes perfect sense and I can assure you, you’re definitely not alone in feeling this way. I too strive for perfectionism and so if I’m not doing something perfectly I will just give it up all together, Thank you for your blog 🙂 . I’ve started my blog and wanted to help people like me, check it out it might help you out too …